To really look and feel fabulous you have got to love what you are wearing. It increases our confidence tenfold (at least). If what you’re wearing doesn’t make you look and feel fabulous you’re missing out on an opportunity.
One of the first questions I ask my clients is what is your favourite outfit, piece of jewellery or item of clothing.
When they tell me, I ask them more about it. Initially without them showing me because I want them to help me understand why it’s special.
- Is it the colour?
- Or the shape?
- Do you look and feel fabulous when you wear it?
- Does it evoke happy memories?
- Did you buy it for a special occasion?
- Was it an investment piece?
- Do you receive lots of compliments whenever you wear it?
Finally – how often do you wear it? Very often this will reveal that the item is hardly ever worn because it’s special. While I’m an advocate of not keeping things for best I accept that not everything is suitable for everyday.
But the reason we do the exercise is to draw out the answers. When you know what it is that makes you look and feel fabulous beyond ‘this dress’ it’s so much easier to replicate.
So let me show you an example of my own go to piece that makes me look and feel fabulous every time I wear it.
The Necklace That Makes Me Look And Feel Fabulous
I love the colour because it goes with anything. When it catches the light it changes colour. Because it’s a cool colour this helps my features stand out. So the colour really does make me look and feel fabulous.
The shape certainly is an influencer because it hits most of my style keywords: dramatic, quirky, fun and passionate. You can’t fail to notice it and it represents who I am and what my brand is about.
Does It Make Me Look And Feel Fabulous?
Oh hell yes! Every time I wear it I feel a million dollars and for that reason it was worth every darn penny I spent on it.
I also bought a bracelet and earrings with the necklace. I love the bracelet too and have worn it so often that I had to have it restrung.
Does It Evoke Happy Memories?
Not that I specifically attach to the necklace.
Did I Buy It For A Special Occasion?
No it was an impulse purchase at an exhibition of a jewellery designer I’d been introduced to. She had an open house. I went along with the approach that I’d feel morally obliged to spend money.
Was It An Investment Piece?
At the time it was an investment. I’d recently finished my corporate career, had no money coming in. I felt quite guilty about spending the money. I even agonized over whether I should ask the designer for a refund!
Do I Receive Lots Of Compliments When I Wear It?
Yes I do and I take from this that it’s not simply the necklace, but it’s the way it makes me look and feel fabulous. It ensures I feel more confident and that’s going to impact the way I walk in a room and present myself.
But What If You Don’t Wear Your Favourite Piece Very Often
The aim of this exercise is to see what it is about the item or outfit that makes it special. With clothing in particular break it down further to include:
- Fabric – texture, print
- Details about the shape – hemline, sleeve length, neckline, the cut
- Details of the garment – trims, quality of manufacture
Then take a look in your wardrobe and see if there is anything else that is similar. Perhaps with a bit of help from a seamstress you could make it more like your favourite piece? Or if it’s the colour and you don’t have anything else the same colour would you be able to use accessories to replicate the colour with other clothes?
But even if the answer is still I haven’t got anything else, what you have now got is a blueprint and a very clear idea of what makes you look and feel fabulous. This is so important when you are shopping and helps you to avoid mistakes. It doesn’t mean you have to clone your favourite outfit when you shop! But it does mean you have a better understand of what really works for you.
So that’s what love has got to do with it! Happy Valentines!
If You Want To Look & Feel Fabulous Try This Exercise Yourself
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